Saturday, February 7, 2015

Yep, it's a cliche for a reason...

Long time, no blog. I occasionally think to myself, I should blog about whatever it is I'm thinking of when I think that. Like....

1. The winter coat that I bought three years ago still fits.

2. The first pair of skinny jeans that I bought in an actual store 3+ years ago still fit - and I'm wearing them today comfortably.

3. That it will be 5 years since I've had my surgery this June. It's been 1 1/2 years since I've seen my surgeon. Need to go in and get things checked out.

4. I've had 3 or 4 people tell me in the last few weeks that I look like I've lost weight. Since I lost the initial 100, I gained back 20 and stayed there for quite a while. I'd edged up maybe another 5 or so pounds. I haven't been purposefully trying to lose weight but I'm back down about 10 pounds so within 15 pounds of my initial loss. So weird that now I lose 5-10 pounds and people notice whereas when after my surgery I had to lose like 40 pounds and even then, they just kept asking if I'd gotten my haircut.

It's been 4 1/2 years and I still am maintaining my weight. I worry about my nutrition sometimes but that's more because of the crappy choices I can make rather than what the band restricts me to. Still blows me away that I do not weigh 300 pounds. And that every Jan 1, I'm not resolving to lose weight. Frankly, I do better when I don't try to restrict but rather just try to make better choices. Like I imagine someone who doesn't have all sorts of issues with food does every day. A miracle. Still.

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Monday, April 2, 2012

Just Keep Swimming

Like many others who are many months from their surgery, my blogging frequency has plummeted. Not that I set the world on fire with my frequency even in the beginning. I've always blogged more for me than anything else I lately I've had some WLS thoughts that I wanted to get down on "paper".

I'm 20 months post surgery. What does that look like for me?

The scars on my tummy are light. They almost blend in to the other stretch marks, chicken pox scars, etc. I was looking at my port scar the other day and thought - wow, that was a big bruise, ugly wound that was opened up to install my port. What an absolute joy that it is now just a faint reminder of the road taken.

The bad news is I'm up about 20 pounds from my all time low so I'm down 80 pounds rather than my 100. Seriously. If that's bad, I'll take it. Would I rather have 20 less pounds? Yes. Do I want it bad enough to actually do the work it would take to get it off? Not yet.

The good news - I'm 80 pounds down from my highest and I've been 80 pounds down from my highest for 13 months now. I'm not only down 80 pounds from my highest, I've maintained it for over a year. THAT HAS NEVER EVER HAPPENED. And, would never have happened without my lap band.

I bounce pretty consistently between 216-219. I don't like to see a 220. I got out my summer clothes, put them on and they fit. I guess this is something that happens for a lot of people but I'm not sure it has ever happened for me. I go to the store and try on jeans, and I still buy a size 16. I "cheat" and eat something I shouldn't (McD's Frappe for breakfast, root beer float for dinner - bad, bad and bad) and it still fits.

What is this bizarro world where I don't have to buy new pants every 4-5 months? Where I don't dread the dressing room and realizing that yet again, I have to face the fact that I've gained weight? This maintenance thing is crazy.

I wouldn't say I'm at my sweet spot. I think I can eat more than I should to get full. However, I eat too many sweets to get those 20 pounds off (see above). If I follow the rules and take my time, I can eat pretty much whatever. I still eat too fast though. Need to work on that.

Today, I have on a dress that falls a couple of inches above my knees without tights. It's going to be 90+ today in St. Louis. Am I a bit self conscious about going bare legged for the first time in the season? Yes. Does it look ok? I think so.

Huge win!

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Looking Forward

Where to begin?

I have a job interview this afternoon - first one in 12+ years.

I ran a 5k last weekend - ran it. Ran.

I've gained weight but am still down 80 pounds and expect to get the 15 or so that have crept back on off at some point.

I haven't bitten my nails in about three months.

I have had my "band" for 18 months now. 18 months of not being ruled by food. Of not beating myself up constantly about what I'm eating or not eating. 18 months of a journey, not an all or nothing.

I didn't train like I should have (or rather, maybe wanted to because who says there is an absolute on how you should train) for the 5k. The day or two before, I was talking to myself in my head a lot about what I could "count" as success. I wanted to run the entire race. If I ran the entire race, that meant I met my goal. No wait, it's not all good or all bad, there is an in-between. No wait, I wanted to be able to say I ran the entire thing. I found myself going back to "dieting". If I stayed true to my plan - whatever plan it was for the given attempt - I was good. Successful. On track. If I had one peanut outside of the plan, I was bad. Black mark. Off the wagon.

Nope. Life isn't an absolute. People that have a regular relationship with food don't binge after they have an extra peanut. People that run the entire 5k except for up 3 or 4 of the steep hills after never having run further than one mile in their entire life get to say that yes, they ran a 5k. No qualifications. No ifs ands or buts.

Is my life perfect now that I can wear a size 14/16 and walk up stairs and run a 5k. Nope. But there is so much more peace in my head. Room for other things. Like finding a new job. The next step in my career. Letting someone else know that they would be lucky to find me and hire me and value me.

If this gig works out, awesome. If not, there's another one out there. But I have skills. I have options. I have possibilities. This may be getting a bit too "after-school special" but I believe in me and that is what is most important. Interestingly enough, I think weighing 300 pounds is part of how I came to understand that most important lesson of all. I'm still the me I was then. Now, I just value her the way I should have all along.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Good Numbers!

Biometric testing at work today.

While my weight is still up about 15 pounds from my low, I've been holding steady at that number for a few months now. Bad news - still up. Good news - not going higher.

Additional good news - all numbers at the testing are super-duper. Now, I was someone who at 100+ pounds overweight was still considered "fairly healthy" but things were starting to creep up - blood pressure, glucose reading, cholesterol.

Now - I'm good.

35 inch waist which puts my height/waist ratio at the tippy top of the healthy range (I think) for my height.

Overall cholesterol is awesome at 183. Overall ratio is a little out of whack since my "good" cholesterol is too low and my bad cholesterol is too high. Bad cholesterol may be affected by high protein diet. Exercise should help.

Blood pressure good at 112/80.

I'm still bummed my size 14 dress pants aren't fitting yet but I'm confident they will - once I get my bum in gear.

Super happy with the other numbers though! And, total NSV in that the nurse sort of gushed that I looked great. Yay me.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Listening to the Universe

Does anyone remember that episode of “The West Wing” when Jed Bartlet – the president was wrestling with whether or not to pardon someone on death row. He consulted with his priest who relayed a story of sorts about God not answering questions – or rather people not listening to the answers he/she is sending.

The priest tells Bartlet this story:

Father Cavanaugh:
You know, you remind me of the man that lived by the river. He heard a radio report that the river was going to rush up and flood the town. And that all the residents should evacuate their homes. But the man said, 'I'm religious. I pray. God loves me. God will save me.'The waters rose up.

A guy in a row boat came along and he shouted, 'Hey, hey you! You in there. The town is flooding. Let me take you to safety.' But the man shouted back, 'I'm religious. I pray. God loves me. God will save me.'

A helicopter was hovering overhead. And a guy with a megaphone shouted, 'Hey you, you down there. The town is flooding. Let me drop this ladder and I'll take you to safety.' But the man shouted back that he was religious, that he prayed, that God loved him and that God will take him to safety.

Well... the man drowned. And standing at the gates of St. Peter, he demanded an audience with God. 'Lord,' he said, 'I'm a religious man, I pray. I thought you loved me. Why did this happen?'

God said, 'I sent you a radio report, a helicopter, and a guy in a rowboat. What the hell are you doing here?

Religion notwithstanding, I do often times get the sense that the universe is conspiring to tell me something. Sometimes, I think we look for reassurance to corroborate a decision/thought we’re already having.

Sometimes it’s your pants telling you – no, you haven’t regained 101 pounds and you don’t weigh 300 pounds again. However, you have regained 18 pounds and you cannot wear your size 14 trousers without violating obscenity laws.

Yep, it’s happened to me. I hit my low – 196…. 6 lowly pounds away from my goal – earlier this summer. I was too tight for a long time and started to rely on a lot of sweets/sliders. The good news – if that’s all you’re eating, you’re not gaining weight. The bad news, I started to experience some stomach upset and reflux.

I had two unfills (the second after a fluoroscope) and it opened everything right up. I was ready to eat and eat I did. Not binging. Not drive thrus. Not anything too awful, relatively speaking. But, I was eating a bit more than a good bandster should on the “food food” front. Plus, I was keeping up my ad hoc intake of sweets. I just haven’t been mindful. If I want to eat something, I do. Am I hungry? I don’t know. Not really thinking about that. Sound familiar? Might have contributed just a bit to getting within a hair's breath of 300 pounds.

So, my three pairs of size 14 dress pants are too tight. I am not buying new pants. I am not buying new pants. I am not buying new pants.

A few other things I’m not doing….
I’m not going on a crash diet.
I’m not going to stop eating.
I’m not going to wig out.
I’m not going to start thinking I’m fat again.
I’m not going to keep gaining weight.
I’m not going to self-sabotage.

Because frankly, I’ve got enough sabotage from which I can draw in the world around me. Oh yeah, I got called fat today at work. At work. By one of the principals of our firm. In front of other principals and colleagues. And yes, I guess I’m still fat 80 pounds down. God knows what she called me 80 pounds ago.

Afterwards, a co-worker couldn’t believe that I wasn’t more upset.

I’m not upset because I’m numb. I’m numb to a workplace that sustains, rewards and tolerates inappropriate behavior, misogyny, bullying, and just plain social skills poorer than those seen at most junior high school dances. I’ve wanted to leave for a long time. I haven’t because frankly, I was scared to look for a job at my heaviest. But, it’s go time. I’m getting my resume in shape. I’ve got my outreach plan kicking. I am leaving. I’m leaving soon. And that is good.

But back to my weight. I have to say, this little incident has prompted some questions…. Namely, am I still fat? Have I lost 80/100 pounds and I’m still fat? Does the world still see me as a blob – just a smaller blob?

My goal throughout this process has never been to be supermodel thin. Not going to happen. But, I want to be healthy. I’d like to be pretty. I’d like for my pants to fit. I’m good with being chubby. But I’ve worked too damn hard to still be the girl in the room that people think – Man, I hope that chair doesn’t give out on her. I don't want to be the girl that asks to take a middle seat on the airplane and the aisle/window people think.. Aww man. And I don’t think I am that girl anymore. I don't think I'm delusional on this point. The space in my head is working really hard to stick with this viewpoint.

So the idiot commenter came by later in the day to apologize. She tried to say that what she meant was that I had a tall, totally different frame from the other petite woman who was standing there. Who knows, maybe she did. Maybe she was just being a bitch. Maybe she was just being an idiot. Maybe it was all three.

What do I know?

I know that I wear the same size pants as Meryl Streep does and I don’t think anybody is worrying about her going around and breaking chairs.

And I know that I’m getting a new job. My resignation will be my fu*k you to you and you and you. And when I resign, I will be wearing my size 14 trousers and they will look awesome. Some may call this sour grapes but I call it my armageddon. It’s a reckoning. The chickens are coming home to roost. Don’t know how many more metaphors I can mix but I do know that this place isn’t going to have Susan to kick around for much longer. Yeah.

And, I know that I'm going to enjoy a good amount of wine this weekend. 18 pounds be damned.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Awesome NSVs

While I saw the lowest number ever (thus far in the journey) on the scale this morning - 193.6, the NSVs have been super rewarding over the past few days.

I had a work meeting over the last days and saw clients I hadn't seen since January. Everyone seemed bowled over by how I looked. I even got called skinny and slim multiple times. Remarkable! Everyone asked how I had done it and I felt semi-bad not fessing up but I just don't want to open up to that depth with my work community. If there had been anyone in the group who was a candidate for the band, I would have told people but luckily :), I was by far the heaviest.

And.... I went to shoe store over lunch and tried on a pair of tall boots (knee high) just for fun and guess what??? They ZIPPED UP!!! All of the way!!! Zipped. Totally zipped. I have big calves. Always have, always will. Just the way the genetic dice tumbled. They fit. They fit. They fit!

Monday, June 27, 2011

Overweight and it feels so good!

As of this morning, I am officially part of the thousands of Americans who are overweight and I couldn't be more thrilled. 195.6. .4 pounds under the marker between overweight and obese for my height. Being overweight means I am no longer obese. Nope. Not anymore. What an awful word that is. Yuck.

Overweight though is music to my ears!! 15.6 pounds until my goal of 180 which will still be overweight but I'm confident that that will be a good weight for me. I think if I got down to 163 (which is the tippy top of the healthy weight category for my height), that I would look gaunt. What a concept.

I'm chubby!! Not fat anymore - yippee!!!